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Mother's Recipe for Joy and Success
Self-love develops by always trying to choose the best right way
Plan to win. Set realistic goals, review, revise, reach, reset others
Use time wisely. Fill your mind with productive and positive thoughts
Do the thing you fear to do in order to develop inner confidence
Success occurs when opportunity meets preparation. Prepare to win
Persistence, determination, and hard work make the difference
Always complete the task in order to feel productive and happy
Let your word be your bond, for you have nothing without the trust of others
Don't limit your interests and life will never be boring
Discover, admit, and change your undesirable personality traits
Don't judge others actions or situations unless you're omnipotent
Be hearty in your praise of others, and limit criticism
Be genuinely interested in others, listen with intent
Be friendly, especially to the unfriendly, always smile
Learn to see and sympathize with the other man's view point
Avoid negative situations, especially arguing. Learn to yield
Be above fools, rise above the crowd, restrain your natural response
Hatred is never ended by hatred, but by love. Learn to forgive and forget
It's OK to admit you don't know, you will always lack knowledge
Develop diplomacy. Become skilled in productive personal communication
Choose with great consideration; you can't change the consequence
Limit material wants, simplify life, and achieve balance
Buy experiences and memories, possessions are meaningless
Never say no to a beggar for 'giving' without reward is the ultimate joy
To develop a good attitude, act like you have one all the time
Be happy everyday, problems don't go away, they only change
Education is the key to mental and emotional understanding and growth
The only lasting joy comes through spiritual experiences and hopes
View yesterday as your education for tomorrow's application
Be silly, laugh and enjoy life, in spite of it's inconceivable twists and turns
Make the world a better place because you were in it
Be tender, let your heart show
Give yourself away today, tomorrow may be too late
Most of all cherish children, and family, and love
Yesterday ended last night. Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
SNIPPET FROM NEON GODS, a novel by MM
Will you help the 'Little Children of the World'?
Article written for Kauai Newspaper
As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day saints I feel that all Christians should take this opportunity to stand up and be counted. Not all of us can afford to dash to different destinations to physically help victims of world disasters. Not all of us can afford to send large sums of money to help, but as individuals there is something we can do. Wouldn't it feel good to take some action to alleviate the pang of helplessness we feel for the desolate victims so far away. As Christians we can do more than pray for our fellow brothers and sisters who must live through such horrendous natural catastrophes as just occurred in India. To a people as poor as any on earth, our hearts and prayers go out. But its' not enough. They had no material wealth before the earthquake, now they have nothing. Nothing, not a single possession, not a single crust of bread. Many of them watched as their family members were buried in the rubble while their meager shelters collapsed leaving them homeless and destitute. Many have no family left. What is left for them? Where will they go? Where will the orphans go?
The little orphans will go to Mother Teresa's' shelters. The children will be fed because of people like you and I who send money to her cause. There is so much need, so much to do. What can you spare? Used clothing for any age can be sent to Mother Teresa's' shelters. They will get there within thirty days after the packages are sent from the mainland. Secure parcels well, and address them as follows: Mother Teresa's' Shelter, Bombay, India or Mother Teresa's' shelter, Calcutta, India. Zips for these cities can be obtained at the post office. Please enclose at least ten dollars to cover the cost of the duty, wrapped inside the clothing or concealed under separate letter. It is imperative that you mark the parcel as used clothing. Do not send anything with store tags. Children's thongs, shoes, underpants, and T shirts are the most needed items.
Brothers and sisters, I have been there. I have seen the work that goes on for the children. Anything you send will go directly to the care of the children. For more details about this project which I have entitled "Little children of the world," please call my residence at (702 398-3659) I will be glad to share more of the details about Mother Teresa's' work with the children. As individuals you and I can make a difference if each of us is willing to contribute. Think about all our packages, hundreds of them from all over the United States. We can do something. As a group we can do a tremendous service. I hope you will help.
Marilyn Morningstar is currently staying in Kauai working on a novel entitled Neon Gods. Her work as a poet and author encourages people to examine their lives for perspective. She has traveled around the world, and spent much of that time in third world countries. Although she has been a resident of Nevada for twenty-six years, she calls Hawaii home, and hopes to plant roots in Kauai, or the garden of Eden, as she calls it.
Volunteer Opportunity- Help Tibetan Orphans
Article written for orphanage project
In this part of Tibet (what used to be Tibet) starvation and disease is rampant and the communist government has absolutely no programs to help alleviate this suffering for the nomads. Without private concern and assistance these people will simple wither away and die. I am a volunteer with the Warithang Welfare Elementary Boarding Orphanage in China (98% Tibetan). I hope you can help us in some way. The Chinese do not allow anyone to bring or send in used clothing so it is very expensive to cloth the orphans. Our trip this year is planned for late summer. I will be there for one month helping the children in many ways, but there is so much need, and I am not financially capable of helping in any sort of substantial way. I am trying to gather support for clothing articles, first aide kits, hygiene kits, school supplies, medical supplies and or contributions toward the building of another building. We house 108 children now, but there are over 400 waiting for shelter due to the amount of parents that die of starvation, or die of disease or get killed in car accidents. As you likely know, the Tibetans have been conquered and manipulated into some of the poorest people in the world. A new three-story building will cost $100,000 to build. We are a small organization, but the only organization working in this region. Any help or assistance would be greatly appreciated. Please read below for our public call for volunteers and donations. I would be glad to speak to any group regarding this project. Thank you for your concern and any support you can give us. www.warithangorphanage.org
80 Little ideas with big results
1. Develop self-confidence by DOING the thing you fear to do.
2. Help men conquer their fears and develop courage.
3. Arouse enthusiasm among men and women.
4. A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.
5. Instead of condemning, try to understand why they do what they do.
6. Be anxious to praise and loathe to find fault.
7. The spirit of approval gets more that the spirit of criticism.
8. Praise publicly and in private with sincere appreciation.
9. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.
10.Arouse in the other person an eager want.
11.Become genuinely interested in other people.
12.Greet people with animation and enthusiasm.
14.Lincoln: Most folks are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
15.Remember names and use them.
16.Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
17.Talk in terms of the other man's interests.
18.Always make the other person feel important.
19.Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
20.Learn something from everyone you meet.
21.Give unto others what you would want others to give to you. Recognition, etc.
22.Don't argue. Let the other man win.
23.See the others viewpoint.
24.Buddha: Hatred is never ended by hatred, but by love
25.Men must be taught as if you taught them not, and things unknown proposed as / things forgotten.
26.Be wiser than other people, if you can, but do not tell them so.
27.Socrates: One thing only I know: and that is that I know nothing.
28.Say: I may be wrong, I frequently am. Let's examine the facts.
29.Read Benjamin Franklin's autobiography!
30.Ben's rule: Forbear all direct contradiction to the sentiments of others, and all
positive assertion of my own.
31.Replace words as "certainly" and "undoubtedly" with 'I conceived, imagined, it
appears to me at present.
32.Jesus: Agree with thine adversary quickly. Use diplomacy.
33.Show respect for another man's opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
34.If you're wrong, admit it quickly and empathically.
35.By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.
36.Lincoln: A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.
37.Gentleness and friendliness are always stronger than fury and force.
38.When you wish to win people to your way of thinking begin in a friendly, admiring
39.Don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ.
40.Begin and keep emphasizing the things on which you agree.
41.Get the other person to respond yes, yes at the onset, and keep him from saying no.
42.Chinese Proverb: He who treads softly goes far.
43.If you want enemies, excel your friends. If you want friends, let your friends excel you.
44.Response: I have been more fortunate than I deserve.
45.Let the other guy do a great deal of the talking.
46.Discuss their wishes and desires. "What exactly do
you expect from me. OK, I'll do that, now what can I expect from you?"
48.Ask yourself: How would I act/feel if I were in his shoes?
49.Develop a sympathetic grasp of the other man's viewpoint.
50.I don't blame you one bit. If I were you, I would feel the same.
51.There, but for the grace of God, go I.
52.Sympathize with his desires and his viewpoints.
53.Be above fools. Don't do the natural response.
54.Return kindness for an insult.
55.Appeal to nobler motives. Consider him honest, upright and fair, and tell him so.
56.Dramatize your ideas. The element of curiosity holds interest.
57.Throw down a challenge. Create a challenge.
58.Stimulate competition with a desire to excel, the chance for self-expression, the
chance to prove his worth.
59.If you must find fault, begin with praise and appreciation.
60.Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
61.Love your fellowman.
62.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing.
63.Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
64.Let the other man save face.
65.To change people without giving offense or arousing resentment, praise the slightest
improvement, and praise every improvement.
66.Give a man a fine reputation to live up to.
67.If you want to improve a person in a certain respect, act as though that particular trait were already one of his outstanding characteristics.
68.Shakespeare: Assume a virtue if you have not.
69.Say: You do not know what treasure lies within you.
70.Use encouragement liberally, show that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he
has an undeveloped flair for it.
71.Build him up. Give him confidence, Inspire
72.Make the fault seem easy to correct, easy to do.
73.Always make the other man happy about doing the things you suggest.
74.Napoleon: Men are ruled by toys.
75.Show the other guy how much you have to lean on him.
76.Ask: I wonder if you could help me. Ask for a favor.
78.Don't try to make your partner over. Always praise.
79.Don't criticize--give honest appreciation.
80. Pay little attentions. Be courteous.
adapted from How to Win Friends and Influence People
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